They say your life can change in the blink of an eye, truer words couldn’t have been said. We face many situations on a daily basis and our life is ultimately a product of the choices we make. The question is how do we know we’re making the right choice? My freshmen year in college I decided that I wanted to rush for a fraternity. If any of you have ever been through that process, then you know that there is a certain amount of discipline that’s required. Unfortunately for us one of the rules stated that we were not allowed to date Delta Zeta’s, that turned out to be a big problem. As a young eighteen-year-old man at a state university you don’t always make the right decision. While I was playing basketball at the student rec I noticed this beautiful long-haired brunet, I was intrigued the moment I laid my eyes on her. After making eye contact with her a few times I knew I would hate myself if I didn’t say hi. So finally, after my friends hyped me up enough I walked my nervous ass over there and probably talked a little more than I should have. None the less I walked back with a number in my phone and date for that night. Now the next two weeks were amazing, I felt that I met the girl that I wanted to tell all my friends and family about. She seemed perfect, smart, beautiful, you name it she had it. She invited me to a party at her friend’s apartment, insisted that we show up together. So the night turned out to be great, drink after drink, kiss after kiss, and photo after photo……. I had no idea she was a Delta Zeta. This girl even lied to me and said that she was a freshman. Long story short I had hell to pay, and I went through some hazing for the rest of that semester…. Good times. Now I left that experience with many thoughts in my mind. What made her decide to do that to me? Are all girls like this? How did I not know this girl was crazy? Most of all, how did I not see this coming?       

I’m going to say it fellas, women are a little bit smarter than us and definitely mature faster than we do. Women can pick up on things socially way faster than we do. Don’t Believe me? Just listen to two girls who don’t like each other have a conversation. Now why is it that most men just can’t seem to pick up on these social cues the way a woman can? Maybe it’s because we’re really quick to place all social value on your looks before we even get to know you? Testosterone is a hell of a drug. A wise woman once told me, “if your forewarned, then your forearmed.” So here it is ladies and gentlemen, a guide on the women that you shouldn’t date.    

    Now what man doesn’t absolutely love a woman with a voice and isn’t timid about expressing her opinion? Not to mention a blazing personality and the ability to carry a conversation on whatever comes to mind. Look ladies we obviously recognize your physical features, I very much appreciate the effort you put into your appearances. Let’s be for real here, no one falls in love with your personality at first sight. Now a true man values a beautiful mind over anything. A woman with confidence is the biggest aphrodisiac. Now when that girl’s confidence is focused on being a smart ass and all around confrontational, you should probably just move on to the next one. This confrontational girl is very fluent in sarcasm. She has the tone of voice that just seems too good for this world. She carries her self in such a way that the best men on this planet will get pushed far away. She feels the need to always put others down, men and women alike. This girl will probably tell you that no one can keep up with her, or that she is misunderstood. The truth is that she is just a smart ass, you’ll be able to tell from the very moment you meet her. Save yourself the trouble buddy.   

  Now you’re probably thinking to yourself what could be wrong with the right one. The sign of any good man is the appreciation of something great in his life. By all means if we were talking about the right one for you, then you cut the rest of them off and treat that girl like the queen she is. Unfortunately, we’re talking about the girl who feels the need to be right all the time. This beautiful girl can bring so many great qualities to the table, but she has this arrogance to her that always feels the need to be right. Doing that right there we’ll push away some really great guys and make your relationship with her feel competitive and no longer a pleasure. She made it on this list for a reason, she has to be right about everything and anything no matter what. God forbid if you disagree with her, get ready for a war. While this girl may possess many great qualities to her, she’s also full of red flags. Don’t get into anything that you can’t freely voice your opinion on. Unless your just an absolute push over, then this girl is great for you… 

  Now when we consider the women that we’re dating is crazy, that can mean quite a few things.  Maybe she calls, texts, and dm’s you constantly throughout your day. She’s probably just asked you how your day was an hour ago. She’ll probably even throw a fit if your profile picture doesn’t have her in it. Now most men can agree we like a little bit of crazy in our relationships and it feels great to know we’re on your mind, but please keep it in moderation. This is type of girl that feels need to be a part of every little thing you got going on in your life. That pickup game you and your friends like to play on Wednesday night, it no longer exists. Now the amazing thing about dating a crazy girl is the passion she brings to your relationship. Now even though the sex with a crazy girl is going to be great, you run the risk of this girl actually trying to physically hurt you. Recognize this girl for who she really is. Her insecurities we’ll get the best out of you and ultimately hold you back. With that being said, life is to short to dance with boring girls. Just find that girl with just the right amount of crazy.  

  Now this is probably going to be the most evil girl on this list, let’s save the best for last right? When it comes to a girl who is on her rebound you run a serious risk for falling in Love. She carries herself with such a seductive vibe that we’ll absolutely drop you to your knees. Not to mention when you fall for this girl, you fall hard. Your lead to believe that you found the game changer, “The One”. This girl is wifey material in your eyes. In reality though, you’re just the rebound guy. You’re the unlucky man that she is using to simply get over the other guy that actually broke her heart. Now don’t let this girl have a lingering effect on you, she actually knows how great of guy you really are. After you date this girl for too long it just seems like you can’t do anything right. You two went from planning your weekends together to not even being able to have an interesting conversation. You might question yourself as to what you did wrong, but this is just the circle of life when it comes to rebounds. Understand what you’re getting yourself into before you date this girl. Now this may not be the healthiest advice, but if you’re on the rebound and you just happen to meet the girl who is on her rebound.... God yes.  

  Our parents always told us that we should learn from the mistakes of others. I’m not to sure if I agree with them though, I mean maybe we shouldn’t grow up to be drug dealers. Life is beautiful and every day we walk out that door we have a chance to do something legendary. The worse thing you can do after reading this is to approach a beautiful woman and try to find the reasons why it wouldn’t work. What I’m trying to say is that you should date every one of these girls. I can speak on behalf of all men, we are far from perfect and I’m sure there’s a girl who can write an amazing article about what type of men to avoid. None the less brother, go out and tell that smart ass crazy gold digger who just got dumped how beautiful she truly is.   

                               -The Candor Report

                               -Pete Castro Jr.